A French woman and personal life coach's outlook on self-confidence, communication, and relationships. How to gain and manage them to get what and who you deserve.

Most websites offer the option to give general info about you, your situation, hobbies, etc… beside the introduction text. Make sure you’ve filled it out. Of course, you don’t need to answer ALL the questions. Yet, although it will not always systematically rule you out, no answer or a blank one may not always play in your favor. Avoid anything which can lead people to think you’ve got something to hide.
It can also look like you didn’t take it seriously enough. If you can’t even find enough time to correctly fill a profile out, you allow people to question your level of investment.

Although of course you’d better choose the right bait to catch the right fish (please see : https://relationshiptranslator.wordpress.com/2010/12/04/first-steps-to-settting-an-efficient-on-line-profile/), a few elements will prevent you from jeopardizing your chances to attract somebody interesting.

Perfect spelling, grammar and punctuation are a must. You have plenty of time to reread it, have it reread, etc… So, no excuse there. You writing in a foreign language is not an excuse for mistakes either, in that context, for the same reason.
No text language. Beware of online translators as well.
The page formatting is also important. Make paragraphs, please! Your text will be easier on the eyes and your ideas will look clearer than the average. This is for the form.

Put whatever you have to say in a nice, clear and positive way. (see: https://relationshiptranslator.wordpress.com/2010/12/30/reformulate/ , please).

Ladies, if your photos look attractive enough, many men won’t even bother to read your introduction, no more than the rest of your info, beside maybe your age and location. You can easily tell they would take every chance hoping somebody good-looking enough will reply.
An easy way to see if they’ve read your info and intro is to ask a specific question or mention something very specific about you they shouldn’t miss and they can refer to in their first message to you. If they don’t, chances are they’ve just skipped it and are not that interested in getting to know you specifically. No need to waste your time on them then.

Gentlemen, women, unlike you, will pay much attention to details and what it is you have to say, regardless of how good you may look. They are sensitive to words and won’t jump into a story only because your photo is attractive. They will want to know more and make sure your personality matches your looks. Most women will go through all the different categories so that they can pick as much as possible info about you.
Remember the attractive ones get tons of email every day. To catch their attention, you need more than just good photos. If your intro is not up to the rest of your profile and doesn’t stand out nor make the ladies feel like getting to know you, you’re doomed.
Should you look like Apollo reincarnated, if your text is not up to your photos, you jeopardize your chances with the worthy ladies.
Whereas, if you look just average, but your intelligence and your personal qualities show through your writing, they may think twice before casting you out and send you a note because, at the very least, they can expect to communicate on an interesting enough mode.
So, to attract the best ones requires a little effort and work on your text.

Show some creativity, please.
Unless it is very unusual and a big thing in your life, all that is otherwise mentioned in your profile is often not worth being repeated. It looks as if there is nothing else you can talk about and lets expect no real fancy conversation. Not very appealing, is it?
Too strict requirements about who you seek you may believe show you know what you want, if sounding like warnings will only show your lack of flexibility. As an outcome, they may make you miss good opportunities.
As can a big hiatus between your requirements and what you’ve got to offer. Keep your expectations realistic, please. :)

Bragging is no better than complaining. Histrionic or depressive personalities are not the most appreciated. Show your best face. Don’t lie though if you seek a lasting relationship.
Try to sound balanced, with a slightly wild side. Humor is good if subtly handled.

Stick to the essential and leave room for further discovery. No need to write your biography ! ;) A long text will discourage many to extensively read it. 10 to 15 lines are far enough, in my opinion.
Show what makes you different from others. Why should people contact you? What makes you so special they should pay attention to you? Your text should tickle the reader’s curiosity and interest, make him (her) smile. Create something of your own, keep your text understandable though.

OK, this is an introduction. A few gentle and engaging words about who you seek can’t hurt though. To show interest in the other person and open doors are always welcome. Ask few questions about her (him), for instance.

If you’re not a good writer, ask a coach or a friend for help. Every man and woman is different, yet few things are complete turns off to almost all of them.
Make sure to reread your text with a critical eye.

And last but not least, end your intro with something which will help your potential contact to bounce back and start a conversation. :)

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