A French woman and personal life coach's outlook on self-confidence, communication, and relationships. How to gain and manage them to get what and who you deserve.

About Dot Rose

Dot Rose, the author

Beside a career in the arts, media and communication, I’ve learned psychology at the Sorbonne University in Paris.
As a host or co-host of several international support groups and forums, I’ve helped many, men and women, to regain their self-confidence, learn how to understand the other person and communicate in such a way that they were heard, appreciated, and eventually got what they wanted.
Maybe because I have experienced and overcome more hardships than the average, people easily turn to me for advice. Considering my background, how to help them out comes naturally to me. I could see that my own personal style, direct, pragmatic, honest and clear, yet genuinely respecting of people, worked.

I can read people, even at a distance, thus empathize and give more personalized and proper advice. This also makes me a natural “relationship translator”, able to understand both parties, explain and reword the message so that it is heard.

I don’t tell my clients what they want to hear, but what they NEED to hear. This makes the difference, according to them.

So that more could benefit from my experience, communication skills and tips, I officially became a personal life coach in 2002.
As a pioneer in online dating – I started 20 years ago when it was still very confidential – , through my coaching practice and during my travels over the world, I’ve talked and exchanged with hundreds of men and women from all backgrounds, nationalities and cultures.

Originally from Paris, I chose to move to the sunny South of France. I’m the happy mother of two successful daughters, one of them I’ve raised alone.

During the last two years, I’ve slowed down coaching to devote my time to painting. I will restart counseling full time in the months to come though. :)


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Comments on: "About Dot Rose" (11)

  1. Florence said:

    What a wonderful idea to share your experience with us ! You have helped me a lot in the past in dealing with relationships. Now that I’m happily married and the mother of a wonderful baby boy, I would like to thank you again for your support. No doubt your advices will be extremely valuable to women all over the world.
    Love,
    Florence

    • Dot Rose said:

      Florence, thank you so much for the nice feedback and encouragement ! I’m glad you’ve found your match and your little boy, I know, is the cuttest. :)
      My purpose is sure to help. You never know when you write who is going to read, It is difficult to weight up the impact of your words, particularly on the Internet. Feedback is always most welcome, as well as suggestions of topics any of my readers would like me to talk about, BTW. :)

  2. Michael said:

    Thank you Dot. Your assistance has been invaluable to me. My life has not just turned around, I now control its course.
    In this fast paced ‘take-away’ society we find ourselves, it is such a delight to hear true wisdom. Wisdom based on life itself. Experiences, lessons, failings and successes. And not just empty regurgitations of the latest ‘mentoring’ fads.
    You sit atop my ‘favourites’ list. Where you will stay.
    (Michael Stanton CEO, Koala Companions Ltd ; Brisbane, Australia)

    • Dot Rose said:

      Thank you Michael. :) I’ve recieved the copy of your book you’ve sent me. Thank you so much for the lovely dedication. It touched me a lot !
      Wishing you and it all the success you deserve. :)

  3. Michael said:

    Dot, you know that I’ll discuss practically anything. Usually I agree with you. Sometimes I don’t, and we have lively exchanges. Now I have something in your bio that I want to discuss. I don’t know if this is an issue of English being your second (or third or more) language, or if we truly disagree.

    What I want to discuss briefly is “advice.” Here’s my opinion:
    Advice = telling them what they should do.
    Suggestion = telling them what you think would be a good thing for them to do.
    Giving options = telling them what they could do.

    I rarely give advice except in life or death cases and when they’re being abused. I prefer to give options as often as I can and then to trust them to make their best choice from among the options. I slip into giving suggestions a lot, though.

    Do we disagree?

    ~~ Michael Dickerson Deluno

    • Dot Rose said:

      Michael, I know my English may be faulty at times. I just hope it doesn’t prevent people from understading me. :b
      Yet, I’m grateful you give me that opportunity to clarify this point. :)
      I wrote “people come to me for advice” and hopefully, this is exactly what I meant. People seek advice most of the time, and, even more often, solutions if not recipes. Thus the success of methods such as “become this” or “do that” in 5 or 10 lessons. As if one could fit all.
      As forme, I would give no advice at all. Although it would certainly be the easiest for me, it would not be my client’s interest in the end.
      According to me, a good coach doesn’t give advices, even less answers. His job is to put things in perspective, should the necessity arise, give an external objective outlook on the issue at stake, and to ask the right questions to help his clients use their ressources to come up with the right answers for themselves. That’s different, in my opinion. My goal is to help my clients find their own personal answers, help them set their own personal plans to get what they want, not to serve them ready-made programs which will prevent them from thinking too much. This would be to keep them dependant, when my goal is to free them and allow them to go further WITHOUT me.

      Is it clearer now ? :)

  4. Michael said:

    Much more, Dot, and we do agree.

  5. Michael said:

    You speak English better than many Americans do, Dot. Never feel bad about that. Remember, though, that long ago we made an agreement that I would help you become even more fluent in English and that you would help me with French. I never judge your communicating in English. I know how difficult it can be to speak in a second or third language. I’m amazed at how fluent you are in English. Amazed. Sometimes I forget that English isn’t your first language.

    • Dot Rose said:

      Thank you Michael. :) Well, although somewhat of a perfectionist, I still believe the most important remains to understand and be understood. :)
      Misunderstandings may happen between two people officially speaking the same language because they assume words mean the same to both of them, when it is not always so. At least, when you talk with a foreigner, you don’t take this for granted, so you pay more attention… ;)

  6. Michael said:

    I agree with you totally, Dot.

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